I know that most of the readers here have their own issues with transition at work, one of the more tricky parts of transition. My particular situation is a bit complicated. As most of you know, I came out to my boss around the middle of June, and he was supportive of my issues. I told him at that time that I would eventually tell everyone else that works there, the other 5 employees. And, as you know, I did tell them toward the end of July. Now, everyone at work knows about me and I’ve been relaxing a lot more and not trying to hide the transition developments at work, they all seem to be OK with it so far, but they haven’t actually seen Amber fully yet. After my appearance at the theater and the resulting fallout, I’ve been a bit more cautious about pushing my transition at work. The problem is that our customers don’t know about me, and if the reaction from one of the workers at the theater is any indication, some of them would not want me to come to their place of business as Amber. The other problem is that our business depends on the relationship with our accounts, they can go to another company like ours any time the want to, there’s plenty of competition for the business. So, if I cost us an account because of my transition freaking out the owner of the business, the company I work for loses money. Not good for my job. The boss says that he’s supportive of me and my transition, but if it affects his business, the bottom line becomes more important than my transition, or my job, probably. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out.
If I transition at a natural pace, as my body changes, people see it and deal with it. Of course, that takes just short of forever. If I just start showing up at the accounts presenting as I would choose to do, I risk damaging the company’s income, and thus, my job. I think about this a lot when I’m working at a place that I go to enough that they recognize me, how am I going to deal with things like going to the ladies room at the place, when they knew me from before the change? That may be the biggest issue, even if my new appearance doesn’t freak them out. I haven’t come up with a workable solution to all this yet, short of getting a different job where I can start as Amber, and that’s really impractical and unlikely at this point in time! What’s a middle aged girl to do?