Comments on: Are Partners of Trans Necessarily LGBT(Q)? http://transcendgender.com/2008/12/27/are-partners-of-trans-necessarily-lgbtq/ A place where ideas TRANScend GENDER. Sun, 11 Dec 2011 12:17:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: chosha http://transcendgender.com/2008/12/27/are-partners-of-trans-necessarily-lgbtq/#comment-664 Mon, 29 Dec 2008 06:20:31 +0000 http://transcendgender.com/?p=611#comment-664 I think definitely falls into the category of ‘case-by-case’. Some people will discover they can adapt sexually. Others will discover they need to adapt emotionally, because they can’t adapt sexually. Sometimes that rare exception you described will happen, but to be honest I think that’s more a case of someone discovering for the first time that they have a capacity for bisexuality, rather than magically transforming for that one and only person. But who knows? It could happen. Whatever relationship configuration you can imagine is probably already out there. I just think people have to be honest with themselves and their partners and accept the limitations of what both people want or don’t want, or are or aren’t capable of.

]]> By: Dee Walters http://transcendgender.com/2008/12/27/are-partners-of-trans-necessarily-lgbtq/#comment-663 Sun, 28 Dec 2008 15:11:05 +0000 http://transcendgender.com/?p=611#comment-663 Wouldn’t it be nice if we didn’t have to open up the bedroom and talk about ourselves this way, in order to justify our existence? Or should we ask the rest of the world to talk about themselves in terms of the types pf partners, sexual positions and how they want to be known?

One difference I see is that gays, lesbians and bi’s come out and say that this is how I want to have my emotional and physical relationships. With the robust cross-section of how people view and express themselves around here, saying how we want to be in those terms seems to trap any one of us.

Of course, there are still those who think an idea of an arranged marriage in a cast system where we are assigned partners and roles for a dowry was a fine idea which we should still observe.

Being happy and accepted is its own reward. I can’t tell you how to achieve it. I can only tell you that I support it, in your specific and personal terms.

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