Posted on November 25, 2008 by chosha
It’s been suggested to me that this would be an appropriate post to cross-post from my blog. For those unfamiliar with great Australian rock bands, the title is a Cold Chisel lyric.
Somehow I let this slip by (TD0R is Nov 20) despite the fact that I read some related posts from other bloggers. Given how much I’ve been thinking about this phenomenon (transgender or GID) this year, I wanted to acknowledge the day. This year I think that some people who are transgender have taught me one of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned. And it’s going to sound ridiculously simple in my head as I type it, but here goes: We don’t need to understand something to accept it. (more…)
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Posted on October 29, 2008 by chosha
Hi. Recently I was invited to post on TRANScend GENDER and I thought it made sense to introduce myself first. Firstly I’m a cisgender female, so my perspective is not that of a person experiencing GID or transition. This makes me a little nervous, but I hope I can still make some contribution.
There are two things I’m likely to post about. The first is gender in general: gender roles, stereotypes, fluidity of gender, etc. The second, which is perhaps the reason for my invitation in the first place, is my developing understanding of transgender issues and how this process has impacted on my life. This has been a year of transition for me…just not the kind of transition that is usually discussed here. I have, for most of my life, been a member of the Mormon church – a church that has pretty conservative doctrines and policies when it comes to gender, gender roles, and related issues such as gender reassignment and sexual orientation. Over the last year or so, I’ve rejected many of the beliefs I once held, and I plan to resign membership in that church by the end of the year.
Several months ago I came across riftgirl’s blog and through that I have also found several other blogs written by people who are transgender. This exposure to transgender people and issues has been very helpful to me. I feel awkward and lacking in life experience because there are so many things I don’t know or have no experience with and losing my faith, which right or wrong has been a big part of my life and identity, has been easier to process in the face of so much evidence that the teachings of the Church are inadequate in dealing with real people in real situations that do not fit neatly into pre-defined boxes.
I make no claim to understand what it feels like to be transgender, but I don’t think I need to understand that completely in order to accept that GID is real, to consider the issues it creates, or to be supportive of transgender people.
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Posted on September 4, 2008 by Khyri
My friend Nellie sent me this link to something she saw on Logo last night. I’m not sure how old it is, but I’d never seen it before.
“100% Woman” – Michelle Dumaresq
So many things struck me with this, such as the shear ignorance of some of her fellow racers, with their primary complaints being that she weighed more, and had more “muscle fibers”. (I’ve met many cisfemales who are heavier and stronger!) Also the fact that they were apparently quite happy to be her friend until she won – what does that say about the prevailing competitiveness in our society today? Finally, the conversation with the guy with the French accent as they ride up to the top of the hill – I’d love to believe that was staged, but sadly I’m sure it wasn’t.
I’m glad that the petition against her was ignored, and I was impressed by the conversation they showed where she explained her status to her fellow competitors. There were genuine reactions, with the issues that commonly come up with the cisgendered who have not encountered a transwoman before.
I haven’t watched Parts 2 through 6 yet. But I know I will.
What do you think?
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Posted on August 11, 2008 by Khyri
I first came across the rumor of a TV show (based on GID) called ‘Pretty/Handsome’ buried in the comments section of the excellent ‘Being T’ (Thanks, Bitsy!). I was intrigued, but heard no more about it until yesterday when I was checking out the personal blogs of some other ‘Being T’ commenters and found Chosha, who had watched the pilot episode and reviewed it, and added some interesting thoughts and observations of her own on the topic of transgender:
In the end what I know for sure is that I don’t understand the hatred some people feel/show towards transgendered people. Even if you don’t understand it, even if it freaks you out a little, why does that translate into painting ‘die freaks’ on their house? (That’s what happened in the show.) ‘Freaky’ often just means ‘something I would never do’ or ‘something I don’t understand’ and that isn’t enough reason to hate on someone. It just isn’t.
I encourage you to go check out Chosha’s blog. I love how she’s taken up the challenge of educating herself on a topic in which, at first glance, she has no personal involvement.
And she’s a fan of the Riftgirl too! Yay!!
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Posted on June 20, 2008 by Amber Darlene
Today, I told my boss that I have Gender Identity Disorder. It was kinda scary, but I needed to do it sooner or later, and the right opportunity came up. I had a laser treatment on Monday and I think the doctor used a bit too much power. My face and neck has big blochy spots on it and a couple of places blistered a bit. Anyway, he asked me what happened to my face and I told him “this is what happens when the doctor uses a bit too much power on the laser” “Laser? What’s the laser for?” he asked. I said “facial hair removal, I’m having all my facial hair removed.” We went on to discuss the service calls for tomorrow and I was thinking, “you dummy, it’s the perfect time to tell him!”, so I went into his office and sat down and proceded to tell him about my GID. He asked me a few simple questions and I gave him basic answers, no sense in complicating it at this point. I told him that I hoped this wouldn’t affect my job because I like the job. He said that he didn’t have a problem with it, he likes the work I do for him. So, we’ll see how the summer goes now that he’s aware of this aspect of me. It’s one thing for him to know what’s going on, it’s another thing to see it developing. I’m hoping that by taking it slow, they’ll be more accepting of me as things change.
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Posted on June 10, 2008 by Khyri
I discovered this thought-provoking blog post from Jendi Reiter:
The first-ever New England Transgender Pride March took place this weekend in Northampton, and I was there with my “Episcopal Church Welcomes You” rainbow tank top and a digital camera to capture the pageantry. I was hoping to blend into the MassEquality contingent, but they were scattered around other groups this time, so I just milled around looking like I knew what I was doing, and took lots of pictures. Next thing I knew, someone had handed me a bunch of purple and white balloons, and I was marching behind the lead banner, shouting “Trans Pride Now”.
Go read the whole thing! You’ll be glad you did.
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